Musings on Threesomes
Apr. 8th, 2003 10:47 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elfsSo, I've been thinking. About sex. Mostly about the threesome I participated in last week and why there wasn't much to write about when all is said and done.
The more I think about it, the stronger becomes my conviction that threesomes aren't all that much fun. I mean, the two people I were with were both wonderful people, and I've had sex with each one alone, and I think I much prefer that to the combination of all three.
I might have liked it better if we were there with a purpose other than to get messy and get down. If it were all about her, or all about him, or even all about me, I would have know what I was doing. But instead I just kept going back and forth between them, wanting more of each of them and never quite getting enough before the triangle of bodies re-arranged itself into some new configuration. There was one time while they were have intercourse where I kept wondering, "Now, what do I do?"
I went back through Google groups and find my comments remarkably uniform: I've done the hot-bi-babe thing, got my merit badge, thank you, and I've never really enjoyed it. In bed, I tend to be somewhat toppish. I like doing things. I don't enjoy just being done all that much. So a spontaneous threesome without any real structure is just frustrating to me. I'd rather do twosomes.
I mean, don't get me wrong. I had a blast. I'd almost forgotten how much I love giving head to a man. But given a choice, I'd rather have each of them separately.
Still, if they invite me again, I won't refuse. I just have my preferences.
The more I think about it, the stronger becomes my conviction that threesomes aren't all that much fun. I mean, the two people I were with were both wonderful people, and I've had sex with each one alone, and I think I much prefer that to the combination of all three.
I might have liked it better if we were there with a purpose other than to get messy and get down. If it were all about her, or all about him, or even all about me, I would have know what I was doing. But instead I just kept going back and forth between them, wanting more of each of them and never quite getting enough before the triangle of bodies re-arranged itself into some new configuration. There was one time while they were have intercourse where I kept wondering, "Now, what do I do?"
I went back through Google groups and find my comments remarkably uniform: I've done the hot-bi-babe thing, got my merit badge, thank you, and I've never really enjoyed it. In bed, I tend to be somewhat toppish. I like doing things. I don't enjoy just being done all that much. So a spontaneous threesome without any real structure is just frustrating to me. I'd rather do twosomes.
I mean, don't get me wrong. I had a blast. I'd almost forgotten how much I love giving head to a man. But given a choice, I'd rather have each of them separately.
Still, if they invite me again, I won't refuse. I just have my preferences.
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Date: 2003-04-09 10:34 am (UTC)The one kind of threesome I haven't enjoyed as much is the kind where the people I'm with aren't interested in each other. Under those circumstances I find myself going back and forth between the 2 as you described, and I feel like I'm not able to give either one of them the level of attention they deserve. It also tends to get overwhelming for me, because I end up being the focus of attention a lot more than normal.