Musings on Threesomes

[elfs]

So, I've been thinking. About sex. Mostly about the threesome I participated in last week and why there wasn't much to write about when all is said and done.

The more I think about it, the stronger becomes my conviction that threesomes aren't all that much fun. I mean, the two people I were with were both wonderful people, and I've had sex with each one alone, and I think I much prefer that to the combination of all three.

I might have liked it better if we were there with a purpose other than to get messy and get down. If it were all about her, or all about him, or even all about me, I would have know what I was doing. But instead I just kept going back and forth between them, wanting more of each of them and never quite getting enough before the triangle of bodies re-arranged itself into some new configuration. There was one time while they were have intercourse where I kept wondering, "Now, what do I do?"

I went back through Google groups and find my comments remarkably uniform: I've done the hot-bi-babe thing, got my merit badge, thank you, and I've never really enjoyed it. In bed, I tend to be somewhat toppish. I like doing things. I don't enjoy just being done all that much. So a spontaneous threesome without any real structure is just frustrating to me. I'd rather do twosomes.

I mean, don't get me wrong. I had a blast. I'd almost forgotten how much I love giving head to a man. But given a choice, I'd rather have each of them separately.

Still, if they invite me again, I won't refuse. I just have my preferences.

Comments

[jenk]

I kept wondering, "Now, what do I do?"

Heh.

One of the beauties of bottoming is that I don't have that wonder much. If I'm told to give head, or whatever, I do. If my hands are tied and something's being done to me, I can just focus on that. It's nice.

[nitoda]

As a submissive myself I absolutely agree with you - living in a triad, we still tend to have sex by the two, not by the three ... and often I will get up to make a cup of tea while they enjoy each other on a weekend morning! I'm perfectly happy in a 3-some when I know what is expected of me ... but our other partner insists she isn't into bdsm while being very particular about what she does and doesn't like and very dominant in other ways. We call her our vanilla domme :-)