Today's Moral Quandry!
Nov. 5th, 2010 12:40 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elfsToday's moral quandry: Is it okay to ogle a blind woman?
While Omaha and I were standing at the deli where we got today's lunch, a couple entered the deli through the back door, holding hands. He was one of those very cute European bear-geek types that haunts the cubicle corridors of the Pacific Northwest. Despite his weight he looked like he got out into the sun more than once in a while. She was a well-built, vivacious, pretty, and significantly zaftig Chinese woman, dressed in green slacks and a black, low-cut blouse, with a slightly distant look.
It took me a moment to realize that they weren't just holding hands, but he was leading her. Then I spotted the white cane in her other hand.
I experienced a moment of confusion. Is that okay? I mean, it's not like she can ogle back. Does she know how much consternation she's causing, showing that much cleavage? Surely he would tell her, right?
(PS: The use of the "gaze" in your responses will be cheerfully ignored.)
While Omaha and I were standing at the deli where we got today's lunch, a couple entered the deli through the back door, holding hands. He was one of those very cute European bear-geek types that haunts the cubicle corridors of the Pacific Northwest. Despite his weight he looked like he got out into the sun more than once in a while. She was a well-built, vivacious, pretty, and significantly zaftig Chinese woman, dressed in green slacks and a black, low-cut blouse, with a slightly distant look.
It took me a moment to realize that they weren't just holding hands, but he was leading her. Then I spotted the white cane in her other hand.
I experienced a moment of confusion. Is that okay? I mean, it's not like she can ogle back. Does she know how much consternation she's causing, showing that much cleavage? Surely he would tell her, right?
(PS: The use of the "gaze" in your responses will be cheerfully ignored.)
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Date: 2010-11-15 08:16 pm (UTC)It might be more polite to complement her so she has an explanation for why someone is staring. It would be less disconcerting to me to know anyway.