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An acquaintance of mine commented over the media, while wringing its collective hands over Zootopia and the furry community:
One interesting thing I also noticed when media does decide to talk about furry porn: the gay stuff doesn't exist.
I had a very similar reaction to an (otherwise pretty good) Marie Claire article about porn, Porn is today's Sex-Ed, in which the author wrote, "Porn sanitizes sex. Nobody has hair. You never see lube, even though they go through gallons on set."

I wondered what porn she was talking about. Almost all of the porn I watch has gallons of lube in every scene. Most of the people have hair. And then I realized: I don't watch mainstream heterosexual porn. I watch kink porn. I watch amateur porn. I watch gay porn. In all of that porn, lube is critical. Sports bottles loaded with j-Lube; paper picnic bowls of Crisco. Even the much-vaunted for-lesbians, by-lesbians Crashpad series has megafrackloads of lube.

But for most people, the gay stuff doesn't exist. The amateur stuff doesn't exist. The most "realistic" porn, in the sense that ordinary people do their (extra-)ordinary kinky things, and don't edit out the details, on camera, is basically the porn that has no marketing budget.

I think that's sad for the obvious reason that, unlike other kinds of movies, we do have sex, and when we watch porn it's often for the kind of sex we want to have but, for some reason or other, we just aren't. And I don't think we want lube-free, laughter-free, sanitized sex.

I could be wrong. The coming twin forces of Presence and Sexbots will probably prove me wrong. I think I'll stick to people.

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Jun. 21st, 2011 06:40 am
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Article 1, Section 8 of the Constitution is pretty simple. It says, 'Raise an army.' It says absolutely nothing about race, color, creed, sexual orientation. You all joined for a reason: to serve. To protect our nation, right? How dare we, then, exclude a group of people who want to do the same thing you do right now, something that is honorable and noble? Right? Get over it. We're magnificent, we're going to continue to be. Let's just move on, treat everybody with firmness, fairness, dignity, compassion and respect. Let's be Marines.
Command Sergeant Major of the Marine Corps, Michael Barrett, during a trip to South Korea.

What surprises me most is that Barrett is advisor of enlisted men to Marine Corps Commandant Gen. James Amos, the service commander who was most vocal in his concerns about letting gays serve openly in the military. Amos has done an admirable job of following the lead of the Commander in Chief, and ignoring the constant spinning of the Congress. He's been so complete in preparing his service to acknowledge these men and women clearly qualified to serve I'd like to think that Admiral Mullen's moral suasion was part of his turnabout.
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It’s been decided. On October 20th, 2010, we will wear purple in honor of the 6 boys who committed suicide in recent weeks/months due to homophobic abuse in their homes and/or at their schools. Purple represents Spirit on the LGBTQ flag and that’s exactly what we’d like all of you to have with you: spirit. Please know that times will get better and that you will meet people who will love you and respect you for who you are, no matter your sexuality. Please wear purple on October 20th. Tell your friends, family, co-workers, neighbors and schools.

RIP Tyler Clementi, Seth Walsh (top)
RIP Justin Aaberg, Raymond Chase (middle)
RIP Asher Brown and Billy Lucas. (bottom)

REBLOG to spread a message of love, unity and peace.
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One of these things...
This evening my daughter's school had its annual fundraising auction, and while I was there I stood in the hallway with a couple of other couples waiting for the drunken revelry and insane spending of money would begin.

The event was held at the local community college's main dining room. South Seattle Community College, a school at which I used to teach. SSCC is primarily vocational, and two of their biggest specialties are tractor-trailer driving (including engine maintenance, both for trucks and aircraft-- Boeing is a big draw here), and food preparation (including a cooking school, restaurant management, service, and all the rest). The cooking school is quite good, and when Omaha and I lived right down the street from them we enjoyed it when the pastry chefs had their annual open-to-the-public cook-offs. Minor vocations include floral and beauty school. It's in South Seattle, which it Boeing territory-- industrial and vocational attitudes reign.

As I was standing there in the hallway at SSCC, I noticed something about the notices on the wall. You can see the part of the wall that stood out in the photograph. I asked the other parents: "Do you see anything odd about this hallway? Anything particularly sad?"

None of them did. There were thirteen bulletin boards along the walls of the corridor, which not only led into the dining area but also back toward the student union and the bookstore-- a fairly well-traveled part of the school, where lots of students would wander.

Only one bulletin board is protected behind plastic sheeting, closed off with lock and key. This one. All the other ones are out in the open: Mexican American Student Association, Christian Student Association, Student Diesel Drivers Association, Muslim Student Association, Student Culinary Council, Vietnamese Student Association, Khmer Student Association, Chinese Student Association. All publicly displayed without the need for protection.

Only the bulletin board for gay and lesbians students is locked down. I would hazard a guess and say that it's probably the only one that routinely suffered vandalism, and the only one that needed this degree of protection.

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