An exercise so simple a child could do it!

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My ex hasn't spoken to the children 3-4 years, at least. When they moved here, he got upset at me when I reminded them to call him, because he said that he only wanted them to call when *they* thought of it. YC says that because any time she called he cried a lot or made negative comments about her living situation, she had no interest in doing so. He doesn't send cards, doesn't email, nothing. Supposedly this is because of me, though I'm not sure how.

When they lived with him, I understood that if I wanted to keep contact steady, I had to initiate it regularly, because as you said, out-of-sight, out-of-mind.

Still, I am sometimes sadly amused that he refers to himself as this incredible parent of our children (and that his friends constantly back him up on this and stroke his ego) when he hasn't contacted them in years.