Annoying Male Interactions
Mar. 23rd, 2008 05:10 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elfsI was very disappointed by the "Gender Lines" panel, mostly because one of the writers claimed that he could tell when a woman was writing a sex scene under a male pseudonym because, as he put it, "the man was thinking too much." He claimed that in a sex scene written by a man, the man thinks of only two things: "Damn, she's got a nice <insert body part here>" and "Damn, I'm doing pretty well here."
I guess that disappointed me because, during sex, I'm thinking all the time. Sometimes it is admiration for my lover, sometimes it is concern that I'm not doing well enough, but oftentimes it is contemplation of what it all means, the why, the how, the expected outcome: where will we stand with each other when this is all over?
Am I just wired weirdly? Goddess knows I seem have all the requisite mechanics and instincts; my masculinity seems to be intact. But when three men in a row assure me that thinking during lovemaking is a sure sign of femininity, what am I am to make of that?
I guess that disappointed me because, during sex, I'm thinking all the time. Sometimes it is admiration for my lover, sometimes it is concern that I'm not doing well enough, but oftentimes it is contemplation of what it all means, the why, the how, the expected outcome: where will we stand with each other when this is all over?
Am I just wired weirdly? Goddess knows I seem have all the requisite mechanics and instincts; my masculinity seems to be intact. But when three men in a row assure me that thinking during lovemaking is a sure sign of femininity, what am I am to make of that?
