elfs | The Friday Five

1. How many times have you truly been in love?

I've had mad crushes on too many people, male and female, and been badly infatuated (and cruelly used) once, but at this point in my life, looking back, I would say that I've only really been in love once.

2. What was/is so great about the person you love(d) the most?

She wasn't a copy of me, didn't want to be, and I didn't want her to be. Instead, she compliments me in ways that I can barely begin to enumerate.

3. What qualities should a significant other have?

Patience. A willingness to see the relationship through. A complimentary personality.

4. Have you ever broken someone's heart?

I suspect so. I'll leave it at that.

5. If there was one thing you could teach people about love, what would it be?

That it is not miraculous, accidental, or mystical. It is a natural outcome of perseverance to a common cause, namely each other, and whatever family you choose to create about you. It is not treasured or praised enough in the modern era, which is more obsessed with the quick fix, the instant gratification of shallow wants and needs, and a delusional never-never-land kind of "love" that more closely resembles madness and obsession than real love, and the odds are dead set against your finding someone who will persevere in love with you.

Nonetheless, you should try. Your humanity deserves nothing less than the real thing.