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[elfs]

Omaha and I are celebrating our 20th Anniversary today.

It doesn't feel like much of a party. I still don't have a job, we're short on money, we've just wound up one court battle with Der Ex and we're about to plunge into another, we're living with your ordinary stressy moody teenage girl, and her younger sister doesn't understand what's wrong with her.

But still, it's a good milestone, twenty years. Half the passing lifetime. Omaha has stood behind me, sometimes pushing, sometimes just standing me up. I'd like to think that I could survive adulthood without such help, and probably I could, but I'm happy that I don't have to. She stayed during a crisis as bad as anything that happened to any upstanding congressional moralist recently, and she decided that despite my faults and transgressions she'd keep on and we'd raise our children together, as a family.

I love and adore her, and sometimes I feel so hopeless to express it, so inconsiderate when I fail, and so troubled when I get it wrong.

Twenty years is a long time, and I'm aiming for sixty more, and every day I make little notes to myself in my to-do list trying to be a better man for my wife, and a better father for my children. Omaha has been the light and the love of my life, and when stress doesn't let that light shine as brightly as it could, I do everything I understand that I can do to polish the lenses and fuel the flame, because that's what she deserves.

Comments

[danceswithlife]

Congratulations to you both!

I met you both in the early ninties, and I've often repeated the two rules for your relationship that I think Omaha shared in my hearing to people who don't understand how poly can work. Thank you both for your ongoing example of how to do it right, even when it's hard--and for showing that to people who don't even know you both well :-)

Congratulations

[ideaphile.livejournal.com]

You two are good together, especially when you're being bad together. :-)

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[orcaarrow.livejournal.com]

Congratulations!

I wish you many more.

[edichka2.livejournal.com]

Nice to read that. Good for you both.
- E

[aelfie.livejournal.com]

Congrats!

[slutdiary.livejournal.com]

Well, I've always thought of you two as the poster children for poly. More than that, though, you're perfect for each other and here's wishing you both my love and wishes for many more years.

Happy 20th

[pandakahn.livejournal.com]

My SO and I did that this year as well. It was....a little scary to look back and see how far we had come and how long we had been at it.

Congratulations!


MPK

[acelightning.livejournal.com]

[technoshaman.livejournal.com]

she is a wonderful, gorgeous lady, and you are one lucky so-and-so... not that you didn't work your own butt off alongside the luck.

I hope you two do make it together another 60 years, and I hope I'm there to see it...

Congrats!

[iljoyce.livejournal.com]

Congratulations to you both! Wishing you continued success for the next 60!

[slfisher.livejournal.com]

aww. sweet message.

so what are the two poly rules?

[desiraes.livejournal.com]

she is a very lucky lady.

It's gives me hope to see it work.

Love you both
denise

[norincraft.livejournal.com]

You are both lucky and I am really happy for you.

Many, many more

[katybeth]

Happy anniversary to you both.

[shunra.livejournal.com]

Happy anniversary to both of you! Your very candid writing about your marriage (difficulties and all) have had an important part in my understanding of marriage, humans, and love. I consider that the Omaha-and-Elf-beacon-of-love - the lens you polish is at least as powerful as a Fresnel.

[doodlesthegreat.livejournal.com]

Congratulations to you both!

[kitsap_charles]

Twenty years is a long time, and I'm aiming for sixty more…

From your lips to the gods' ears, sirrah.

[pixel39.livejournal.com]

Happy anniversary a few days late! Here's to another 20!