On the other paws...
Jul. 4th, 2005 07:27 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elfsLast night, after a day where I got the Eastern wall of the house all mowed and cleaned up, Omaha, Kouryou-chan and I drove over to ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
j5nn5r and desirae's house for good cheer, moral support, excellent alcohol and excellent hottubbing (although not at the same time), really delicious barbecue, contributions of cold drinks and ice, and just a general good time. shastaw told us of her recent custody battles and we commiserated, pointed out where she should go for serious investigation in her own situation. Jenner too, was having a hard time dealing with his own family because, as the grown-up, he's the one whose duty it is to say to his relations, most of them younger and snottier than he, the phrase, "No, you can't have that."
It really seems to me that's the key to being an adult. Learn to use the phrase, "No, you can't have that" and its associates, "No, you can't do that," and just the simple, "No." Especially, "No, I won't do that for you. You want it? Do it yourself."
Being an adult means you're the center of resentment. Your relations, the ones who've grown up with a sense of entitlement, resent you for being the gatekeeper to their instant gratification. Your peers resent you for being the wet blanket who points out the consequences of their desires. And even those who don't know you resent you for having the temerity and the gall to believe that you know better than others. Well, you do.
And that's just about all there is to it.
j5nn5r and desirae's house for good cheer, moral support, excellent alcohol and excellent hottubbing (although not at the same time), really delicious barbecue, contributions of cold drinks and ice, and just a general good time. shastaw told us of her recent custody battles and we commiserated, pointed out where she should go for serious investigation in her own situation. Jenner too, was having a hard time dealing with his own family because, as the grown-up, he's the one whose duty it is to say to his relations, most of them younger and snottier than he, the phrase, "No, you can't have that."It really seems to me that's the key to being an adult. Learn to use the phrase, "No, you can't have that" and its associates, "No, you can't do that," and just the simple, "No." Especially, "No, I won't do that for you. You want it? Do it yourself."
Being an adult means you're the center of resentment. Your relations, the ones who've grown up with a sense of entitlement, resent you for being the gatekeeper to their instant gratification. Your peers resent you for being the wet blanket who points out the consequences of their desires. And even those who don't know you resent you for having the temerity and the gall to believe that you know better than others. Well, you do.
And that's just about all there is to it.
