Elf Sternberg

I dunno. I have the personal and intellectual framework to consciously explore.

AND i have been perfectly happy with a mundane but satisfying sex life.

I suspect it really has more to do with how well one knows oneself -- some aspects of sexuality never interested me for a moment, while others were intriguing but ultimately not my thing, and others lit my hair on fire. (Uhm...figuratively!)

I think generally that knowing people do all these things is positive because it allows people to drop some of the shock and embarrassment and get to the meat of the question : "Do *I* like this?"

As for intimacy, that's always seemed somewhat separate from specific sex act to me.